Why job interviews are like first dates

Everybody has experienced the stress of preparing for an interview. Likewise meeting a potential partner can be extremely intimidating. If you think about it the interview process is very much like the journey of embarking on a new relationship. Here are some interesting comparisons:

A new beginning

If you are starting over or taking this step for the first time it can seem like a daunting task. You may feel like you are too old or too inexperienced. However your success rate has a lot to do with your attitude. Learning to approach every part of life with a positive and hopeful attitude will sustain you, regardless of the outcome.

First impressions

Putting ‘your best foot forward’ is something we all aim to do. We hope to win people over by showing them our best side or what we have to offer. Worrying about what to wear, what to say, being punctual without looking to eager, are some of the thoughts that will cross your mind during preparation. Remind yourself that these are common fears and don’t let it stop you from embracing the moment.

Keeping it real

Ultimately you will have to put yourself out there. You may not express who you are fully during that first meeting but you will be forced to reveal something private and honest about yourself, that is, if you want to find a suitable fit. Saying all the right things to impress others may seem like a good idea, but in the long run you don’t want to be stuck in a situation where you are forced to be someone you’re not.


Unfortunately opening yourself up will mean that you face the possibility of being rejected. Whether you experience rejection from a person or a corporation won’t minimise the sting of feeling unwanted, or feeling like you don’t measure up in some way. If you are searching for a job, chances are you will attend multiples interviews in a short space of time which can leave you feeling deflated and hopeless.

Letting go and moving on

So you didn’t get the job you thought would be perfect for you. Or maybe your date didn’t call you back. Take comfort in the fact that if the person or company cannot see your value than they are not the right fit for you. Our idea of the dream job or perfect partner may not always come in the package that we expect but if we are open, continue to be patient and remain true to ourselves we will find what we are looking for.

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