I had the opportunity to assess a learner on a Train the Trainer program; this delegate used “Attitude” as his topic of choice… well done Mr. H…. brilliant topic! Thank you!
After completing this assessment I felt inspired, I wanted to share the concept with all I know, so doing [hopefully] inspire or brighten somebody else’s day….
My question is simple… Do you soar?
I know – what a cliché…. Soar like an eagle…. we all have attended or heard so many presentations or have read so many books making this statement; there’s also quite a number of meditation sessions conducted using “soar like an eagle”. But do you really know what it means? This soars like an eagle?
It’s actually quite simple – soaring like an eagle simply implies that I have altitude… Okay, so what is altitude?
Altitude literally means the distance measurement, usually in the vertical or “up” direction… Looking at it like that then… it’s easy to see/say: Soaring like an eagle simply means how high do you fly? [No Ana, I don’t mean “smoke and fly” here….. especially taking altitude in account…]
Why is attitude so important?
We have to understand that, that which we admire in others in not the skills they have nor their physical attributes, it is their attitude; we admire things like wisdom they have, endurance, tenacity, positivity or their courage….. It’s also a known fact that those things we admire about others are the very same things we don’t see in our own lives. Ken Keys, Jr said – “A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror”.
Let’s take one step back – What is attitude?
Wikipedia [www.wikipedia.org] defines attitude as a hypothetical construct that represents an individual’s degree of like or dislike for an item. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event.
Simply put Attitudes are judgments. They develop on the ABC model [affect, behaviour, and cognition]. Where:-
The affective response is an emotional response that expresses an individual’s degree of preference for an entity.
The behavioural intention is a verbal indication or typical behavioural tendency of an individual. And;
The cognitive response is a cognitive evaluation of the entity that constitutes an individual’s beliefs about the object.
Again, in laymen’s terms this mean – Attitude is my choice…..
Chuck Swindoll wrote – “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.”
Let’s look at another concept – Is the glass half full or half empty?
We all know this determines whether you are an optimist or a pessimist… the optimist will see the glass half full and the pessimist see it as half empty. Allow me to put another spin on this concept [again thank you for this insight Mr. H] –
Imagine [if you will] sailing on the open sea and the wind change…..
The pessimist complains about the change in the wind
The optimist expects it to change [don’t worry it will change – he/she will wish and hope]; but
The leader adjusts the sails
A few inspiring quotes –
Robert Frost said – “A person will sometimes devote all his life to the development of one part of his body – the wishbone”;
Reach for the stars, even if you have to stand on a cactus – Susan Longacre
Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold – Maurice Setter
The last point I want to raise is to understand that my attitude manifests in my behaviour…. for example: my facial expressions, speech [including tone, pitch and even volume] and body language… what that means is….
If you’re happy… then be happy
If you sad…….. then be sad
If you think you are beaten, you are
If you think you dare not, you don’t
If you’d like to win, but you think you can’t it’s almost certain you won’t.
Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or the faster person,
But sooner or later, people who win are people who think they can.
Herm Albright, said – “A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort”.
Can I change my attitude…?
The short answer is Yes..!!!
But that’s a topic for a later posting….. If you are interested, there is a quick questionnaire that might assist you in determining your attitude “level”…. Contact me… I can make it happen….
Think of this… Malvin [John’s father] Maxwell… said “I am responsible to have a great attitude and to maintain it….
My attitude does not run on automatic…”
Have a great day… till next time..